First Date Discussion
Taken from
Askmen.comSo you finally gathered enough courage to go
talk to the cute redhead who caught your eye; your friends aren't
impressed just yet. You finally develop the backbone to ask her out; now
your friends are impressed.
They ask where you plan to take her out, and more importantly what
you're going to talk about on that all-important first date. Your knees
begin to tremble uncontrollably. Fear not, read this list and you will
have the girl begging for seconds.
10. Avoid her past
Generally speaking, one should never ask about past lovers on a
first date. In fact, this should be avoided until she initiates the
topic (if she ever does). She might have been hurt or may still be in
love with her ex. You also prefer to start with a clean slate, so
becoming chummy with her and comforting her about past mistakes may not
be the greatest strategy on the first date. The goal is to take off her
lipstick by the end of the evening, not help her wipe the tears as they
smudge her mascara.
9. Got any brothers or sisters?
Usually a safe topic of conversation is asking about siblings
(don't ask her if she's got cute sisters). Again, asking about parents
could backfire if they experienced a divorce or separation, especially
at a young age. But sisters and brothers usually trigger good feelings
and score points for you since you're showing a caring side and an
interest in her family life.
8. Traveled anywhere special?
A tricky way to spark a girl's interest is by asking about past
travel destinations and where she intends on visiting in the future. The
upside is that if she mentions a spot she always wanted to visit, lo and
behold, here comes the knight in shining armor (that's you, boy) and
offers to make her dreams come true one day by taking her there. This
also provides both people with some insight about one's cultural
background and their openness to new adventures.
7. Drinks anyone?
A topic of conversation, especially if the date is taking place
at a restaurant or bar, is the kind of food and drinks each of you
prefers. Again, not only can you gauge whether or not you share culinary
preferences, but the potential topics are endless and provide you with a
safe topic of conversation unless, of course, you are dating someone
with an addiction to food or alcohol.
6. Any career plans?
Asking a girl about her past education and whether she intends on
returning to school is admittedly a double-edged sword. She might love
to go on and on about her numerous academic achievements. But she might
break down and admit that her current job has absolutely nothing to do
with what she studied. In either case, you are provided with a golden
opportunity to reassure and encourage her with an abundance of
compliments.
With these conversation topics, you'll probably be doing more than
just talking
5. How's your job?
If you are years removed from your college years, then talking
about work and career goals just might be a safer topic. Admittedly, do
not let her go into the mundane details about how fed up she is with her
life, which would explain why she's on her seventh margarita. But
generally speaking, people like to brag about work, no matter how
routine it is. It also gives you an idea regarding whether or not you
are dating a future CEO or a waitress-for-life (not that there is
anything wrong with that, of course).
4. Got any friends?
Ask her about her friends. Even if you do not know them, she will
love to tell you about her circle of friends, how much they mean to her
and where she met them (and all of the things they did together). Don't
doze off though, my good man, this is when you get precious details
about her. If you ever make it further than the first date, her friends
are usually the best source to unearth the skeletons in her closet.
3. Free time frolicking
Does she roller blade, collect stamps, or dance? How about
sports? What kind of music does she like? These are the questions you
must ask to determine how much of a bond exists between the two of you.
Moreover, you gain some insight to follow-up questions.
2. Weekend's peakin'
Not only do you get a clearer picture of what life with her will
be like after the honeymoon, but you are also sending mixed messages,
which is not entirely bad at first. Yes, mind games are childish, but
keeping your cards at your chest gives you leverage. She will ask
herself: "Does he want to see me on weekends?"
1. Be bold and look ahead
Now, assuming she is having a good time, is looking at you with
that sparkle in her eye and her body language is positive, you can look
ahead and talk about other things you could do together in the future.
Admittedly, you do not want to rush too far ahead and scare her off, but
if she's enjoying herself, chances are she'll be curious to see what
other great adventures you have in store for her.
Source:
http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_top_ten/4_dating_list.html
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